Dear parents, teachers and students, I wish you a happy new academic year! Let it be easy and conflict-free for us, let it be less violent and more merciful and compassionate! Take care of your friends, don't offend those who are unable to defend themselves, those who are confused by the pressure of the braver and more aggressive ones. Parents, take a closer look at other people's children more often. Perhaps this is the moment when they especially need your support and participation. Develop in your children empathy and a desire to help those who are hurt. And I have a few recommendations for parents of first graders.
1.Try to establish relationships with parents of children in your class.
2. Take a closer look at the children. Attend several classes and extracurricular activities. If you closely observe children's behavior, you can give your child gentle advice about behavioral strategies. After getting to know the kids, you can help your child find a friend or girlfriend. But don't impose your point of view. Let your child figure it out for himself and establish contacts with different students from the classroom.
3.Try to invite the whole class to your child's first birthday party. To ensure that no one is left out, agree with your parents on the general rules for conducting DR: how to invite children to private parties so as not to injure anyone..
4. Tell your child how he should behave if they start calling him names or pushing him. Tell him how he should behave if another child is hurt in his presence.
5.Make an appointment with the teacher to tell you and other parents about outbreaks of aggression in the classroom.
6. Ask the teacher to work with parents to develop a kind of “code” of conduct in the classroom and an algorithm for the behavior of teachers and parents in conflict situations. Introduce this code to children at class hour. Maybe it should be posted in the classroom. I would recommend that the guys sign it.
7. Ask the teacher to spend a class hour related to the topics of friendship and mutual assistance. Recommend a children's book to the teacher to draw on in this conversation.
8. Be friends with your child! Only then will he tell you every evening in detail about the events of the day. Promise your child that you will always be by his side no matter what happens; that he can always tell you everything, and you will not swear and run to the teacher, but decide together how best to act.
9. Don't scare children with your anxiety! They won't tell you anything when they see how nervously you react to everything.
10. Never discuss any negative information about other children and adults in front of your children with classmates and their parents! And try not to make fun of other people in front of children.
11. In the evenings, read smart modern books for children with your children, discussing all possible life situations (check out my Anti-Mobbing List of Books). Talk to your child about how you would behave in the shoes of book and movie characters.
12. The first year of school is the most important one, so don't leave unanswered the questions your child asks you, resolve all conflict situations with him.
13. If you see that the teacher is not contacting you and cannot gently resolve the conflict situation, pick your child up from school.
14. If you find out that a teacher is raising his voice to students, talk to him and warn him about the consequences. Let your child respond politely to the teacher, “Don't yell at me. You don't have the right to yell at students.” Your child should know that aggression and emotional abuse are not normal. You must teach your child to protect their borders, to respond boldly to peers and adults, to feel and respond to injustice. Teach your child to be brave and be brave yourself.
Have a happy first school year!
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