Mobbing at school

Daria Nevskaya, the creator of mobbingu.net, gave an interview to Novaya Gazeta. Baltic States” in Riga, by writer Maria Boteva. We publish the full article.

How should a teenager at risk and who has been bullied behave? How can a teenager help himself if he has moved to a new school and started being bullied? How do you prevent bullying in the classroom? How to survive mobbing and bullying without breaking down?

Cybermobbing: formulation. Description. The reasons. Exits.

Mathematician. A story from the life of Tatiana Rick, a writer, psychologist, teacher and author of textbooks.

An Australian artist drew a comic about harassment in kindergarten, and it turned out that not only victims suffer, but also the offenders themselves. However, the actress also showed how to teach children how to treat each other properly. The Internet believes that the most mature character was a three-year-old girl.

I can't say that the country's achievements have a good effect on people's sense of security; I have an even greater feeling of the opposite when it comes to communicating with people and at work. We are doing some research, and they show that most people generally believe that it's scary to go outside, that their environment is not people, but bandits. And this is happening: just watch one film, “School”, which caused a great resonance.

I used to argue on LiveJournal about the impact of capitalism/socialism on the prevalence of such a disgusting phenomenon; school bullying is systemic bullying against a student in the classroom (or bullying, from English bully, a bully, a brawler). Back then, my arguments were mostly indirect and scattered, but now there are direct ones

My girlfriend and I were going to school, and the jerk was following us. He was two years younger, scary and nasty. We first giggled and then started joking loudly about his squeaky voice and gait. The freak started shouting curses, and we snapped boldly and decisively in response. The school gates were won by the winners of the fight. And suddenly a kid jumped up to us a cut lower. He came close to me and hissed, looking me angrily in the eye: “If you still say something offensive to him, I'll hit you! It won't be enough!” I was taken aback by the booger's impudence, but I didn't want to continue the series of winning jokes. The main thing was that it wasn't clear that he was standing up for him so much, he was a freak!

The article analyzes the views of employees of the educational system, in particular teachers, about school bullying, its causes and consequences in the context of the educational process. Adult response tactics play an important role in escalating or stopping bullying in a children's team, so the article focuses on actual and presumably possible responses reported by respondents.

In any class, there is a division into groups or groupings. These groups compete with each other and harass guys from other groups. But even within the groups themselves, there is a hierarchy that is a breeding ground for mobbing. Children often stay out of groups, but then they need to have a very strong immune system to determine their individual behavior and not meet the requirements of either group.

Daria Nevskaya talks about child and adolescent mobbbing/bullying, recommends books for children and teenagers on this topic, and answers questions from the audience. Recording of a live webinar on Instagram organized by “Nachalka-Antistress” in December 2018.

How do you learn to resist teacher bullying? Teacher bullying is very common in modern schools. Teachers sometimes bully children, insulting and humiliating their human dignity, but sometimes bullying can be “quiet” bullying, but even more harmful than “loud” bullying.

How to help counselors prevent or overcome bullying in the squad during the summer vacation.

How do you prepare your children for summer camp? Do I need to tell the counselor about your child's peculiarities? How do you respond to complaints from a child who calls you every day from camp asking you to take him home? Should I warn my child that mobbing is possible at camp?

The concept of mobbing was introduced in 1963 by Austrian zoopsychologist Konrad Lorenz. He called mobbing the phenomenon of several small animals attacking a larger enemy. The term became famous after the publication in 1972 of a work by Swedish physician P. Hyneman, who compared children's violent behavior towards their peers with aggressive animal behavior and called it mobbing. In its modern sense, the term was first used by the Swedish researcher of work psychology H. Leyman, who studied the peculiarities of people's behavior in a team in the early 80s of the 20th century.

How does a child feel when bullied by students and teachers at school?

How to teach your child to create “negative models”, feel danger, avoid dangerous situations, and counteract aggression. How to get out of difficult situations. How to teach girls how to resist violence. And how to establish such a trusting relationship with your child so that he is not afraid to share any of his problems and sorrows with his parents.

What can society and the state do to prevent a tragedy like the one that happened in Ivanteyevka on September 5 from happening again? What can adults do to prevent children from being left alone with their grief and fear? Suggestions from the site's creator Daria Nevskaya.

Psychologist Lyudmila Petranovskaya spoke in an interview with mobbingu.net about why it is dangerous to ignore bullying among teenagers and how to help a child in situations of mobbing/bullying.

The situation of mobbing/bullying in a children's camp is different from that of bullying at school or in a sports team. Counselors sometimes do not have the opportunity to contact parents and resolve issues together. They must act very quickly to prevent mobbing from developing in the squad.

How to teach a young child to resist an adult or a peer? Obviously, children should be taught not to approach other people's adults, and in the event of any violent action on their part, not to remain silent, but to shout and resist.

What should parents do if their child is involved in a mobbing/bullying situation? How to involve the school administration in solving the situation of cool mobbing? What are parents entitled to?

How to distinguish teenage love from teenage mobbing/bullying?

How do you stop trying to prove to your offenders that you're not who they see you in you? How not to drag the burden of resentment and humiliation received as a teenager into adulthood? How can I renounce victim status?

I spoke to teachers on the topic “Mobbing/bullying in modern children's literature” and saw a great response, which indicates that the problem exists, but teachers find themselves alone with it, often without even knowing how to approach it.

Parents often ask me how they can explain to their children why they should read. I usually give a few arguments that smart parents and without my recommendation, they could be used to talk to children about the benefits of reading. But after I was persecuted and bullied while working at university, I looked at my arguments from a different angle.

“Who loves her??? No one!” , “I'm going to rape you in the mouth with my feet and film it on camera!” , “I'm dying. I roll down the wall and yell at the pillow for help.”

I would recommend that parents watch this video with their children. Talk to them about how they understood what they saw.

You can find friends or enemies on the Internet. You can also find people here who, in general, don't care about you, but will join your enemies with interest. Think of the 200th like under the phrase “you're fat” or the fifteenth ingenious tip to “kill yourself up the wall.” Nothing will happen

In every school community, there are teenagers who bully the weak and outcasts who tolerate it. Sometimes bullying is frightening proportions, jeopardizing not only the child's psyche, but also his physical health.

Norway was shocked by the story of a boy who was mobbed at school and killed himself. This tragic event was widely discussed in print media and social media

Everyone knows that in every school, in every class, there are children who like to hurt, bully, hit, call others names, take money away from them and stuff. There are children who are more likely than others to become victims of bullies, bullies, and offenders. And humiliation, bullying, bullying, violence in different ways forms are an everyday, commonplace reality for most students.

From psychologist Lyudmila Petranovskaya's blog To begin with, about what I think baffles adults who are trying to cope with bullying in children's groups. About common mistakes, wrong ones...

So here's what we can do about it. Of course, the situations are very diverse; these are general principles and steps.

Teens with Asperger syndrome and autism are at increased risk of being bullied by their peers.