Watching the children, I eavesdrop on them talking: “Dude, if you want to keep being friends with me, leave me alone.” Did you notice they talk a lot? What is it about? Yes, about everything. Age identification is related to speech. Let's try to take advantage of it. Parents, if you are planning to spend a vacation with your children, then spend it with your children. Try to abandon the usual parental set: “Did you read it? Did you eat? Did you do your homework? Did you go to bed? Turn off the lights!” , which easily replaces “communication” throughout the year. Use this time to work on your parenting mistakes: take a close look at your child - he has changed a lot over the past year, and there are problems that you may not even be aware of. It would be nice to throw off the rags of the “edifier”, sweep “fatherhood” into the corner, get away from “motherhood” and regain the child's trust and become his friend again. And to do this, you need to talk, talk, talk to him about everything in the world, groping for pain points along the way.
Think about your childhood and current problems and joys, model possible life situations, trying them on yourself and your child. Watch movies that are problematic and not so problematic together. Go to concerts, exhibitions and excursions. Talk about what you've seen and heard. Watch the reaction and develop the topic that suddenly caught you. We can't predict.. (For example, I once made contact with a difficult student after sincerely admitting: “I often lose myself. Especially when I work a lot. Over the weekend, I'm trying to remember what I'm really like, trying to get back to myself. But this is getting harder and harder to do. How not to lose yourself completely? How can we not become a function?” “It's easier for you,” he told me. “I don't even know who to go back to.”)
Take an interest in your child's opinion by asking him questions from the perspective of a naive listener. Browse the sites together. Show him your Internet features (well, not all of them, of course) and take an interest in his favorite sites and forums. Don't leave any question without a thorough answer. Read a children's book together or ask him for advice on what to read. And, of course, get out into nature together, where your friendship will find new Russian-style contours under the shade of trees against the backdrop of fat meadows and blue lakes. Ride bikes together, play soccer, build castles in the sand, go fishing and talk, talk, talk. And one more thing... show your children of all ages how storks fly and plan before planting, how they sit or stand in donjon nests, how a toad carries a toad, how a hedgehog drinks milk, how ants run along the road of life, how elegant a mantis is at its eternal prayer. Show it all without hiding your enthusiasm, which, of course, will have to be upgraded. And uncover your emotions, dig up a “docent” in yourself, otherwise the children won't believe you for a minute. And if you can remember how to express emotions without looking at things first, it means that finding yourself will be a pleasant bonus to finding a friend who has grown up during the summer holidays. Have a nice summer, friends!
(Paintings by the creative duo Alexander Vinogradov and Vladimir Dubosarsky as a reminder of summer)
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